THIS:
http://www.vox.com/2015/8/11/9127769/parenting advice is worthless
Key graf:
Remember the research, though. Most of your parenting choices pale in significance to who you are, how much money you make, and where you live. Within those parameters, your choices are unlikely to substantially affect your kid’s Adult Success at all. Whether she succeeds as an adult has to do with her genes, her friends, and a whole boatload of luck and circumstance.
You’re not on the hook for her Adult Success. You can relax.
It’s a weird way to look at things anyway: parents as program managers, kids as important projects with growth targets and deliverables. Nothing is more likely to make parents miserable than that kind of illusion of control, the idea that they can or should be managing their kids’ development, shaping, directing, and maximizing it. Those expectations make parents and children both anxious and unhappy.
Work hard to shape children but don’t labor under the illusion that you alone will ‘change their destiny for the better’. We’re all just not that powerful as individuals. Or parents.
